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You may have recently heard that youth sports parents are out of control. Surely not you though right? This post covers some interesting youth sports statistics and facts, as well as how you can be a good sports parent.
Youth Sports Statistics
Did you know that 7 out of 10 kids will quit youth sports by the time they are thirteen? That’s seventy percent of all kids who play youth sports. When asked why, the number one reason was “because it is no longer fun.”
Kids play sports because it is fun. However, they also gain so much more in the process. Physical fitness, sportsmanship, leadership, and teamwork to name a few. When our children stop playing, they lose out on so many great life lessons.
So why do sports stop being fun? According to kids, it’s us; well meaning coaches and parents.
Current Issues in Youth Sports
I’m sure you are well aware of the many current issues in youth sports today. Here is a list of some of the more important ones.
- Play and coach to win.
- Don’t give all players meaningful play time.
- Yell at and/or berate players.
Some Sports Parents:
- Coach from the sideline.
- Focus on mistakes made.
- Yell at players and refs.
You Might Argue:
- It’s a game, they are supposed to win.
- If I don’t tell my kid what she/he did wrong, she’ll/he’ll never learn.
- The refs constantly make mistakes.
Role of the Sports Parent
While some of the above arguments might be true, the valuable life lessons involved in youth sports should trump winning. There is a time and place for constructive criticism of our youth athletes. And let’s face it, the refs are human.
At the end of the day the focus should be on:
- Is my child having fun?
- Is my child developing in some way?
Youth Sports Should be FUN
If your child is having fun, she will put more effort and work into what she is doing. She will continue to grow, and develop, and have fun. Then the cycle will continue. Fun -> effort and hard work -> development and improvement -> fun.
A Good Sports Parent Refrains from Sideline Coaching
When you coach from the sideline, yelling “pass” or “shoot”, you are undermining your child’s coach. That coach may be working with your child to dribble more or to use his or her teammates. Your child then becomes confused. Do I listen to my coach or do I listen to my parents? One of them is going to be mad at me for not listening to them. This is no longer fun. I might as well quit.
Youth Athletes Need Reassurance
When you talk about the game (on the ride home) after the game, your kid really just wants to hear: “I enjoyed watching you play.”
Your child definitely does NOT want to hear about the mistakes they made. He already knows. Your child also doesn’t want to hear about what their coach did wrong. That’s someone he looks up to. And please don’t say negative things about your child’s teammates. Those are players your child respects and has to work with for an entire season.
So what are we supposed to do as youth sports parents?
Support our kids
- Find a team, coach, and program that focuses on player development over winning.
- Then let the coach do the coaching. You’ll find it’s so much more fun to just sit back and watch.
- Let your child make mistakes. That’s how they grow and learn. Coaching play by play only creates a robotic player. Letting your child make mistakes, and learning from them, will create a creative player. Creative players are valuable players.
- Focus on the positive. When you pay attention to the positive, you’ll be amazed at how much your child can do.
- Tell your kids how proud you are of them, and how much you enjoy watching them play. You’ll be amazed at the results.
Becoming a good sports parent is all about mindset. Focus on the positive and enjoy the ride. These years are fleeting. One day you will no longer be able to call yourself a sports parent.
Related: If your youth athlete has been dealing with heel pain, you may want to check out my article on Sever’s Disease.
Great Youth Sports Articles to Read
Us Youth Soccer: Why They Stop
Changing the Game Project: The Ride Home
TEDx Talk with John O’Sullivan: Changing the Game in Youth Sports